Creating New Family Traditions After A Loss

The death of a loved one can disrupt your family's structure. After the loss of a family member, small routines and traditions that formerly existed become painful. At Arbutus Funeral Service, we believe in introducing new rituals that support mourning families in moving forward in a positive way. Here are few pointers to guide you through the process:

1. Concentrate On Pleasing Memories

Develop practices and routines focused around good memories. For example, if your children have lost a parent, make an effort to commemorate that person's birthday every year. The party does not have to be extravagant or cheerful; it can simply be a small casual group of immediate family members. You could prepare the departed person's favorite meals and listen to their favorite songs. Instead of grieving a death, these festivities reflect on life and joy.

2. Light Candles

Every year, you should light a candle in remembrance of a loved one. These routines are particularly useful if you want something subtle yet real. Candle flames emit a warm, gentle light and create a calming environment that can aid in healing.

3. Drives And Short Trips

On the anniversary of a loved one's passing, many families pay tribute to them by traveling to a special spot. Others go to a special resort, while some check off bucket list places that the deceased was unable to see. That's a wonderful way to remember a loved one but still ensuring you don't feel lonely.

4. Make A Special Playlist

Create a compilation of songs that you and a loved one really enjoyed. When thoughts overtake you and you need some solace, this playlist will come in handy. It can help uplift your sprits when you are feeling particularly low.

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